Words from our natural fathers, linger in our brains. Some of us may have actual scars, embedded on our flesh, like a memorial date in bronze, that will never fade away.
Yet we must persevere and move forward each day. Often the pain surfaces -you gasp for a breath – hold back the tears and keep walking. Only the power of forgiveness – for you and for another, causes the memory to dissipate the pain and let healing come forth.
Holding on to these memories , dwelling on the pain, replaying them at will, with bitterness, hatred and contempt, will never change anything or make you free.
Our heavenly Father has forgiven us and is not angry at us, nor is He replaying memories of our sin or our father’s sins. We should do likewise.
Sins of the fathers are passed down through the generations. We are all products of our parents and their lack of parenting skills. It is not God’s desire that we live with this pain, rather a plague of replaying events and unforgiveness on our parts. Forgiveness is the only thing that breaks the cycle.
Some of us were paralyzed by the words or actions of an earthly father who made us feel that we’re not good enough. Your Heavenly Father created you to be good enough. You’re not who your natural father thinks you are.
You are who God says you are. In God’s eyes- through forgiveness, we’re in a place where we can’t do anything wrong – we were created to succeed. Though sometimes the effect of being paralyzed, interferes with your ability to see yourself able to do anything right.
The key to freedom, is to honor your natural father but serve and answer to your Heavenly Father. Your natural father, likewise has to follow and answer His Heavenly Father. If he wasn’t following or accountable
to God, that was the source of the problem. You need to realize and look beyond that fault with forgiveness.
Your natural father, had or has no insight or proof that you will be a failure. Ultimately, being your father, if he thinks you are a failure – how does that make him look – being the one who raised you?
Why would any one bring that upon themselves? Do you see the effect that this form of delusion and deception can have upon people? Someone’s jealousy, pride and unfulfilled desires don’t make you a failure.
Conversely, someone projecting on to you to be a success by accomplishing their failures, won’t make you a success – only in making them feel better.
Do you grasp the curse – the pattern – the poison – the dysfunction that is handed down through unforgiveness ? Especially unforgiveness paired with jealousy or pride.
Failure is not when you don’t meet another person’s standard of excellence – it’s when something doesn’t sync or reach completion.
The term: “Failure to communicate” is a perfect example. The solution being, to attain communication or to inquire: “What will make our current dysfunction a success – what can we both or all agree upon?”
Simply making an effort, indicates that you’re not a failure. When you do become successful, you’ll be making your father a success by being a success, by default – he is your father.
What is a success? Following God and doing His will, makes your character a success, not titles or riches or possessions. Success lives in the heart and mind of a person.
If you do fail at something, it’s only temporary, until you resolve it. Realizing that you can fail at something and trying to improve it nullifies a failure.
How can you be concerned about failing, to a Heavenly Father who doesn’t get angry at you or berate you, but picks you up when you fall? God loves for us to admit our faults and seek Him for the answers or
finding peace through it. Blessings lift us up – cursing puts us down. Which are you going to listen to? Bless those who curse you.?
God has commanded a blessing be spoken over you and has already spoken a blessing over you. Cursing is delivered by someone who isn’t following God and you are not subject to those curses – they are empty and useless.
You have the right to hear what you want to hear and believe what you want to believe. Forgive.. Believe you are a success – believe the blessing..
Your only possible failure, would be the failure to believe that. You will succeed. I myself, am still working on it – and I’m succeeding at that.